Ten lessons I've learned from living in Baltimore

Communication and dialogue: I find that communication is an important part of maintaining relationships with friends, family, community members, university officials and superiors. A healthy dialogue is necessary to keep channels open, especially in a different culture. It makes me more confident as I know that I can represent myself.

 It is important to have friends in the Society and community for me, as Jesuit culture is different from the culture outside. It comes from years of living as Jesuits and in practicing a common spirituality. It has rooted me in community, the province and the assistancy.

Friends other than Jesuits: I have friends who are not Jesuits; married, single, of different ethnic and cultural backgrounds, and orientations. They have enriched my life, as I have got different perspectives. They help me understand my role in society and the Society of Jesus.

Having a prayer life:  My communication with God is my greatest sustenance. I take everything to prayer - joys, sorrows, difficulties and accomplishments. Without this communication, I feel lost.

Recreation and relaxation: As a workaholic, I soon realized that I had to deliberately plan my recreation and relaxation. When I realized that I was getting homebound I started going out for movies, drives, and to meet friends.

Understanding and assimilating the culture: Initially I was surprised at the impersonality of life here. As I began to understand the culture better, I realized that life here is different from India and once I got used to it, I began feeling better.

Not being afraid to ask questions and learn new things: I have always been a person who asks questions if something is not clear and I continue to ask questions here, even if it is embarrassing at times. I have learnt a lot which has reduced my dependency and increased my confidence.

Standing up for myself: There have been times when I have had to stand up for myself, especially when there is no clarity on issues. This helps me emotionally, spiritually and physically.

Getting involved in apostolates: Being a priest and doing identifiable priestly ministry is important. Once I got my faculties, I got involved in sacramental ministry in parishes and other places, as much as my schedule allowed. It sustains me as a priest.

Talking about my Jesuit and priestly identity: Since people are always curious about my life; I love to talk about India and what is happening in India. Once I learnt more about what is happening in the American Assistancy I also talk about their works. It helps me constantly reiterate to myself and others that I am primarily a Jesuit priest.